Peter Finch asked:

You have found your Filipina dream girl at last. She seems perfect. Your profiles and interests match and complement each other, and you think you are ready to spend eternity with her. Now comes the question- is she genuine or not?

Lara, 21, is a pretty lass who was not able to finish elementary school because of poverty. She can barely read and write but has her looks to make up for it. She is in deep trouble because her 53-year old American fiance whom she met through the internet is coming and she is afraid her secret will be out. For a year, she had been chatting with him through the help of Manang Liz, a woman in her late forties who make a living out of girls like Lara.

Manang Liz does the typing and the whole conversation while Lara (and all her other clients) just sit beside her looking pretty, smiling at the webcam and pretending to type. She relies on Manang Liz to translate the conversation.

Joyce, 23 is facing a different dilemma. Her fiance is also coming to the Philippines in a few months and she is afraid of meeting him. They chatted almost everyday, had been technically sweethearts for two years, and she has been receiving a monthly allowance from him. The big hitch is that Joyce is not a girl but a guy. And the problem is she had fallen deeply in love with her fiance who thinks she is very much a female.

Lindy’s boyfriend will be visiting the Philippines to meet her soon. She is worried because like Joyce, she has been receiving regular allowance from her boyfriend. Lindy swears she is in love with him. She however forgot to tell him that she is very much married with four children and has been using her allowance from him to help defray household expenses. You might say these are made-up situations to but sad to say, these are real-life stories gleaned from conversations in internet cafes.

How can you tell if she is genuine or not? Through the course of your online correspondence, you should already have a large bank of information about your Filipina girlfriend gleaned from bits and pieces of conversation.

Why not keep track of all your conversations since Day 1 or on the day you started to get serious? Later on you can review these conversations and read between the lines. You will be shocked to unearth a lot of revelations that did not seem to matter much while you were still chatting.

Force your intuition to work. You should be able to sense if something is not right, maybe a line here or there that would show inconsistency that would give her away. Check her e-mails for subtle signs to make you suspicious from the start. Did she provide you with a home address or telephone number? If she did, did you try to contact her? If she comes out clean and genuine, then what are you waiting for?

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Filipina Eyes asked:

A Filipina Lady strives to fulfill her dreams, she is kindhearted, shows respect to both young and old, she laughs, she cries, she triumphs, she fails, but she will always stand up, and say I’m a Filipina. I’m proud of where I came from, I’m proud of my country, I’m proud of being a Pinay, I’m proud to be a Filipino.

The Philippines has many affinities with the Western world, derived mainly from the cultures of Spain, Latin America, and the United States. After the Japanese were defeated in 1945, the Philippines was granted independence from the United States on July 4, 1946. The Philippines constitutes an archipelago of 7,107 islands with a total land area of approximately 300,000 square kilometers (116,000 sq mi) and is the world’s 12th most populous country, with a population of over 85 million as of 2005. The history of the Philippines can be divided into four distinct phases: the pre-Spanish period (before 1521); the Spanish period (1521-1898); the American period (1898-1946); and the post-independence period (1946-present). Many say that the American period had the most influence on today’s Filipino. In 1987, the Philippine Constitution was changed to make Filipino and English both the official languages.

Filipina Lady Attraction

Many ask why so many western men are attracted to Filipina Ladies, especially Americans. It is the simplicity of their values with a mixture of American influence that seems to attract most men. In the Asian world, the Philippines is the largest English speaking country. This makes communication easier for men who find the Filipina beauty alluring and friendly. If a man is searching for a non-western lady with Asian values, the language barrier is not a factor when getting to know these ladies. The Philippines is also one of the largest Christian countries in Asia and it is the world’s fifth largest Catholic Nation. Because of Western influence, finding common ground with a Filipina Lady can easily be established. However, the Western world is not without its rudeness. A number of Filipina Ladies find derogatory names like “foreign bride” or “mail order bride” being disrespectful to their culture and gender. As one well informed Filipina Lady said: “when it comes to respect and morality the Philippines is not a 3rd world country – the U.S. government. with their imposing will of what they deem is good for the world gets the title of 3rd world ignorance for disrespecting people and their culture.”

Filipina Lady Reputation

The Western world of morality as they see fit has insulted many Filipina women. There is an onslaught of Western feminism tying to impose their point of view without knowing her identity, her values, her upbringing, her experiences, and concerns. As usual, it is the government imposing their will backed by political hags that are out of touch of what it takes to survive as an average citizen. Instead of asking the folks who actually have to live life, political ambitions continue to impose what they think is right for the average citizen to further their own political endeavors and wealth. This alienation perpetrates most Filipina Ladies’ reputation in a bad light instead of protecting it. As one Filipina Lady said: “if the government is involved on my behalf, they need to live my life before they impose their will – I”m not forced to do anything I don’t want to do when given free will – only the government forces me to do what I find insulting and unnecessary.”

Most Filipina Ladies who join a dating site do so for the right reasons (see Filipina Lady) They may be tagged by politicians and special interest groups as helpless victims, but many find that the ignorance lies within the government policy to take away their individual rights by using the helpless victim tag as a means to promote their own selfish agenda for individual gain. To them the political agenda is obvious, while the vast majority wants and needs are ignored in favor of a few who prostitute their unfortunate story as being the truth of many. Nothing could be so wrong as the government’s unwillingness to talk to those who know the truth and use fabrication to further their agenda and individual wealth. The government could learn a lot about morality from a simple Filipina Lady who knows what is best for her and how to live life.

Filipina Lady – She is

Who is she? An individual with much to offer. Desired for her beauty that is reflected in her character as a person, not as a governmental pawn for political agendas. If you ask her what her agenda may be and you don’t agree, give her respect, give her free will and give her the ability to choose for herself as long as she is not harming others. She may be many things to many people, but let her decide who she wants to be. She is Filipino, a lady from the Philippines that is as proud as any woman from any country whom endearingly is known to most of us as a Filipina Lady.

Adrian Edlington asked:

People seem to be aware of the difficulties of written Chinese, with literally thousands of unrelated characters, which seem to follow no phonetic system. This thought alone is enough to scare away many would-be students.

What’s not so immediately obvious is just how straightforward and comparatively simple the spoken language is. The grammar and vocabulary that makes up day to day conversation in Mandarin Chinese is surprisingly basic and intuitive.

Now I’ll tell you why:

First of all, in spoken Chinese, fewere words are used to express oneself than seems to be the case in English. A good example of this is the word “shang”, meaning “up”. Shang is such a useful and ubiquitous word, it’s hard to give a full overview of it’s meaning, though it can be used in any of the following situations:

“shang” = up

shang mian = on top

shang huo che = get on the train (bus, plane etc)

shang da xue = start university (work, lesson, class etc)

Indeed, it’s understanding how simple words are used in a multitude of different situations, though differently from English, which fast-tracks the learning process.

Another example of the relative simplicity of spoken Chinese is the absence of articles, which are rife in English.

A, the, am, of and to don’t exist in Chinese and are the bane of English language learners the world over. For example; “I want to go to” is simply “I want go” in Chinese. Same too with “I want eat, I want see, I want buy”.

I frequently hear my girlfriend chatting on her cell-phone…

“Ni gan ma?”, literally “You do what?”, translates to “What are you doing?”.

Obviously, there is a longer and more convoluted way to express yourself in Chinese language, however it’s often overlooked just how easy things can be, when you really start to listen to native speakers.

A final example is the work “kan”, which means “to see”, look, watch, read, observe, pay attention to etc..

So to with “ting”, meaning “to hear”, or “listen”.

Trying to explain the difference between “see”, “look” and “watch” to a native Chinese speaker is not an easy task.

In conclusion, the budding Chinese language learner should not be perturbed by the seemingly insurmountable task of memorizing Chinese Characters. Day to day spoken Chinese is quite straight forward and simple. Focus your efforts on mastering the oral-aural basics and learning Chinese just might be fun!

Michael Ibbertson asked:

With the emergence of Cambodia as a tourist destination after decades of tyranny and occupation tour operators are promoting the adventure destinations of the country.

 

While the majority of people travel to Cambodia to visit the Angkor Temples in Siem Reap there are hideaway places off the beaten tourist track for the more adventurous traveller.  In Cambodia this encompasses travelling away from the Siem Reap – Phnom Penh – Sihanoukville route to explore the relatively sparsely populated areas of Cambodia.

 

What there area offer world not be classes as adrenaline – pumping for the true adventure junkie. They are adventurous travel activities which the whole family can enjoy.  These activities could include bicycling, hiking or trekking.

 

The visit to Angkor Wat can be extended to a cycling tour of the whole Angkor Archaeological Park this giving plenty of options of exploring away from the heavy tourist traffic favoured sites of Angkor Wat and Angkor Thom.  There is the opportunity to visit the other spectacular temples enclosed by the surrounding jungle.

 

Travelling up the Mekong River north from Phnom Penh takes the traveller into the sparsely populated areas of Cambodia which have not yet been fully developed in a commercial sense.  This is the true heart of Cambodia where although the people may be the poorest in the country through their friendliness they would rank the richest.  It is possible to cycle the tracks and roads following the river north from village to village.  A popular cycling route is the 30 kilometres trip from Kratie up to Kampi to visit the rare Irrawaddy dolphins.

 

To the northwest of the Mekong River are the provincial areas of Rattanakari and Mondulkiri, The Banlung area of Rattanakari has a growing reputation as the base for trekking around the crater lakes and the many waterfalls around the district.  The waterfalls can be viewed flowing all year round.  The area also has a National Park to the north and the Kumphat Wildlife Sanctuary to the South of Banlung.

 

Moving from the jungle areas of Rattanakiri to the more hilly areas of Mondulkiri offers a tougher adventure schedule to the visitor.  Choices include three day elephant treks though the densely forested hills, visits to the ethnic tribes in hillside villages, and catching the spectacular views of the waterfalls.  The Bou Sraa Waterfall is the most famous in Cambodia.

 

Moving to the South of the country the coastline area is developing an aquatic adventure following.  Besides the very safe swimming beaches there are a number of authorised PADI dive centres based in Sihanoukville.  They can cater for any diving adventure from snorkelling trips to scuba diving for beginners to the most experienced divers.  There islands in the Gulf of Thailand with their coral reefs supporting many varieties of marine life will satisfy there adventure urge of all visitors.

john john asked:

This article is entitled “SO YOU WANT TO DATE AN ASIAN GIRL ?”

Why have I written this article you might ask ?

Well I’ve dated many different women from many different cultures (Asian,

Latina, African American, Caucasian American, Caucasian-European) and

let me tell you there are some major differences between the culture

you’re used to and a different female from a different culture.

First off this isn’t about race. Lets get that cleared up. That’s a entirely

different topic that usually deals with a society thing and how they

see dating interracially. This is just about cultural differences

and what a female specifically from the ASIAN culture will expect once

you’re dating. I’ve dated many types of Asian women so I have this down

to a science.

Secondly don’t look at anything I say in this article as a slam on Asians,

nor Asian women. Every culture has their beauty but they also have

their ugly side. If you’re not in their culture it’s Taboo to talk about

it openly without someone saying you’re putting them down. That’s to be

expected. Just please take this as helpful information you can use as a guide

if you descide or are currently dating a Asian woman.

Just like with any culture there are misconceptions based on what a person

may see on TV or the movies. A person may think all Latin women have nice booties

or can salsa dance, or African American women can cook really good and have nice booties too,

and Asian women are quite, shy, and submissive to men. Well we’re here to talk about Asian women

so let’s dispell the myth. 95% of Asian women aren’t shy, quite, nor submissive !

They’re actually HUGELY A STARK cONTRAST from this ! This is where things get a little on the

Taboo side. Most men that has had a long term relationship with Asian woman will tell you

they’re actually quite bossy, materialistic, and mean. WHOA huh ! Sorry to burst your bubble

fellas, but this is the truth, and it’s not a race thing it’s a cultural thing. Huh ?

Let me explain. Asian culture is known to be a culture with little hugs, and warm compliments.

That is for the kids growing up in this culture. I know you’re thinking “but that old Asian

lady at work is so nice”. I’m sure she is, but this is also the face that we all show in public

(our best one). Think about this. Have you ever heard a old Asian lady make a funny but rude

comment about something or someone ? Like “why you cut your hair like that, it’s ugly?” “Or,

your fat, you need to lose weight”. It seems funny at the time but this is how they speak to their

kids, and other family members when thier home. It’s common place. There is harsh criticsm or little

in the way of compliments. Lets say a young lady in this enviorment cleans the house for her mother

instead of saying thank you the mother might rass her and criticize her about the job done, even if the

house is spotless ! Well guess what when she gets into a relationship after the honeymoon phase

is done she will be repeating this kind of behavior on her man, and potetionally her future kids.

It’s a cycle.

Many Asian families are tight-knit. However, the way the interact with each other is with

criticism instead of compliments. Parents rarely hug their children, instead they complain at

them. Now I’m not saying these families aren’t loving, In their own way they are, but this common

place with Asian homes (example – “you think this house is clean, i still see dirt everywhere”).

This goes hand and hand with BOSSY. Most Asian parents with be to a degree Bossy with their

kids which pruduces women that are BOSSY with thier boyfriends, and Husbands.

I thought Asian women were submissive to thier men ? Submissive ? Asian women

have their role in Asian culture, but it’s not what most men think it is. It’s usually a role

of dominance and control. first off look at old Asian culture. Some Asian Cultures have had

women leaders for long periods of time. If they were submissive and had this male dominated

society how could this be the case ? Well, I’m telling you it’s not the case.

In most Asian homes it’s not only the kids that deal with criticism but it’s also the husband.

He didn’t do enough yard work, or didn’t give her enough money for shopping needs,

or doesn’t work hard enough at his job, or didn’t complete a project fast or good enough for her,

or didn’t fill up the minivan with gas, or , or, or, or. You might say American women complain

too. Yes, they sure do, but let me assure you this is to a new level. In this culture nothing

this husband can do will be right. Their are no thank yous, just “but you didn’t do this”.

Most older Asian men fade into the backgrownd why their wives run the show. Most drink hard, and

smoke alot as a result. The wives tend to be shuffling around doing something and complaining

about something that wasn’t done right while the husband sleeps in a easy chair (after a few drinks).

Most Asian men growing up in this cultural see it and accept it as it’s all they know. Most women

repeat the patterns of their mother. The problem comes in when Johnny white boy meets a Asian girl at work,

at the park, on the internet, or at the niteclub. He sees this beautiful exotic female, and her

nice shy way and thinks “wow, I’m lucking out here”. Then after 9 months of dating her and her

being super nice something happens. It’s what I like the call “THE EVENT”. “THE EVENT” is first the time

her real personality comes out. It’s usually over something really, really small. You

might spill a drink. You might be 5 minutes late picking he up somewhere. You might forget to open

up the car door for her, or you might turn down a invite to one of the many Asian family parties

you’ve gone to. These small things are the triggers to make “THE EVENT” happen. What happens though ?

Well let’s put it this way buckle up my friend and get ready for the most scarest ride of your life!

This once nice shy, peaceful, submissive woman will turn 180 degrees on you. First off I’ve met many

men over the years that have had these things happen to them during “THE EVENT”. Soda cans thrown

at them, slapped, yelled at, mean hurtful things said, furniture thrown (chairs, etc). An you’re thinking

“I was just five minutes late”. Or “I’ve been to 20 parties and I’m just saying no to this one

because I’m tired, what’s going on here ?” Whatever the situation is this doesn’t warrant this

kind of behavior on her part.

The problem is this is now the tip of the iceburg. Chances are at some point she might apologize,

but a month later this behavior will rear it’s ugly head again. As time goes on the apologies

will get less, and the behavior more prevelant. Some may be more violent. Some may be less viloent

and more wordy, meaning they will criticize everything you do or don’t do. This constant behavior

usually will happen when the relationship has been going a while. It builds up til this is all it

is. Before you know it that submissive, nice, shy person is gone. All you’re stuck with now

is a woman, that’s bossy, shows little love, criticizes everthing you do, is never satisfied,

and has total control over your relationship. Here’s the funny thing too, everything she yells

at you about she will hypocritically do herself ! HUH ? Yes, if she spills a drink it’s no big deal,

if you do it you will be criticized to the 10 degree ! Why is all of this happening ? Well this is

how she was raised. Chances are this is how her mother talked to her and her father, and

how she interacted with her syblings. This is how she was taught to have relationships. Remember most

people put on their best faces. I’m mean to a degree they know it’s wrong, but it’s the only

way they know how to live. So around strangers, or acquointances they’re the super nice helpful

Asian girl, but at home they rule the house plain and simple. Asian women run the show at home

bottom line !

This is a fact men really need to know. Don’t date Asian woman thinking all of the wrong things.

Like she is submissive, quite, etc, etc. If you do you will get taken for a ride. The thing to

do is know they were raised under different circumstances then you and keep your eyes and ears

open to see if something’s wrong before proceeding further. This is about maximing

your dating so you don’t waist your time with someone that won’t be any good for your life. If something

isn’t right leave and move on instead of trying to work with a girl like this and her problems.

You can’t change a person’s culture. If a Asian woman is acting this way to you chances are this

is how her family has been for generations. Don’t try to change it. If “THE EVENT” happens RUN !

If it never does then you might have a cool Asian female on your hands.

This is where I want to reinterate. I’m not slamming Asian women. This is just pointing out a few

unfortunate truths about the culture. For the record their sense of family is tremendous,

and I think if some other cultures had that sense of family they would be more successful

in the world. The problem in Asian culture is the way they interact with each other as a family.

Just to give you an unbiased example. You may have heard some women say “oh I don’t date a man from

Africa, Middle East, or Morroco.” Even some African-American women say this. Why ? Because,

those cultures tend to have harsh treatment towards women, and have an extremely dominant role for

the man. Again like the women above they will be charming and loving until “THE EVENT” happens,

fallowed by sorries, and time elapsed. Then BAM it will happen again, til the time bewtween these

episodes are shorter, and the sorries are fewer. Are all men like this from these countries. No,

but enough to be at least cautious. Culture is a very strong thing. If a culture is very male

dominated with harsh treatment to the women, and a woman outside the culture is dating a man from this

culture she should be at least aware so she can keep her eyes open for behavior that isn’t right.

This the same for men dealing with Asian women. Know their culture is different. Know there are

somethings that are harsh towards men. Be informed and stay alert, and watch for behavior that

isn’t right.

Materialistic ?

Next myth is Asian women aren’t marterialistic. What a lot of people don’t know unless they’ve spend

lot of time with Asians as the boyfriend of one of these these young ladies is there’s a large

competition factor between Asians, and from one family to the next. Who can provide the better car

for their kid, clothes for their kid, party thrown, Etc. Even for those that don’t have a lot of

money this competition still exist. This usually doesn’t rear it’s head til somewhere down the line

in the relationship. There might be a argument here and there about money, then before you know it

nothing financially you do will be right. You’re now being criticized like the above. Don’t date

a Asian woman thinking “oh they’re less martialistic and expect less then American women. WRONG !

One thing that strikes me is those that like to send money back home (to the Philipines, or Thailand,

etc). I’ve met girls where their parents were dirt poor but expected everyone

to chip in and send money to their home coutries to a relative that was doing well fiancially

at least as far as their country was concerned ! Here I am looking at pictures of this relative’s

custom built home in thier country, and provided the knowledge they have a great job there and do

well financially. Then I see everyone chipping in money to send to this person. I’m like “what the

heck?”. I was then told by my girlfriend “over there they see America as being

so rich, and they expect us to send them money”. “So, you’re parents that wait tables, and are janitors

are expected to send money home to a relative that has a nice house, and good job?” I’m then told angrily

“that’s just how things are !” Again my friend don’t try to change cultural.

I’ve also seen the opposite where the family member over in their home country doesn’t have a lot

of money but gambles alot, but yet everyone feels bad and chips in to send him or her money !

Or it’s family members no one knows that well but they call or write asking for money so everyone

chips in. FYI most of the people in this culture that ask for money usually are the irrisponsible

ones. The ones that don’t ask for money are the prideful ones and are usually responsible and reourceful,

their only problem is giving to those that are irrisponsible. It’s cycle. If you’re with such a responsible

and resourceful woman be prepared to blindly give or get yelled at !

This also rears it’s head in her local family. If she has lots of sisters and brothers expect a couple of them

to be hugely irrisponsible. Guess what ? Yup your woman is piching in to give money. Usually not to the

sybling but to their parents, which the parents then in turn gives it to their irrisponsible kid of

their’s when they need it. If you don’t give you get yelled at ! I’ve used the stance that I didn’t mind

helping her parents (I know stupid huh), but I know that your parents give in every time your sister

needs money. So, if I give it will just end up in your sister’s hands.” Guess what ? No change. Still

get yelled at. This is just the culture.

So what if this Asian woman seems to be more Americanized (no accent, not into the food, etc)?

Still keep your eyes open for this behavior. Chances are she was still raised this way in America.

Meaning her parents are like the above, but she grew up in the US her entire life so she has no

accent. Meaning the same negative behavior could easily happen if this is how she was raised.

faithfulness ? Well in any culture that has mistreatment of either be the man or woman faithfulness

goes down. Just like the example above where the guys from African and Middle Eastern countries have

a rep for dominating to their women. Well when this happens these guys tend to see this woman as a

object not a person. When that happens her worth goes down in his eyes. This is why they also have

the rep for womanizing. Well this is the samething that happens in Asian culture why most of these

women that showed these behaviors were cheating as well. I mean if they are throwing things at you,

yelling at you, making bizzare financial requests of you do you really think you’re the apple of her

eye ? No you’re not. You worth goes down. Once that happens it’s easy to cheat on you. You’re not

a person you’re a possession. Plus you’ve excepted the crappy treatment above and have taken the

apologies why won’t you take cheating ?. It’s a progession in poor treatment. It worsens to the point

where cheating usually happens. This is a common thread in any culture if someone treats you badly,

it’s not a far strech for them to cheat. Well it just so happens that in Asian culture it’s common

for the woman to control the guy and treat him poorly, so you can guess the rest. The thing to keep

in mind once you’ve reached this status in your relationship with such a woman she isn’t concerned

of losing you (no matter what she says) because she knows that she can meet another guy just as easy

as she met you !

Please don’t juge a book by its cover. Meaning, you go to her home, meet her parents and everyone

is so nice. That doesn’t mean they didn’t have the above behavior in their home, it just means

you’re a guest and their being nice to you. It also means don’t go in their thinking you’re not

going to give this female and her family a chance based on this article. You just want to keep you’re

eyes peeled and witts about you. Everyone deserves a chance.

so where did this submissive Asian woman thing start ? Well truthfully it’s a Japanese thing

and some people are to ignorant to know Japanese isn’t the samething as Korean, Chinese,

Thai, Filipino, etc. Japan does have a class system in their speech to each other.

It’s still a harsh culture meaning not as many hugs, and little praise, but the women are taught

to speak a certain way that shows their a lady and not agressive. It’s a culture with rather polite

speech in general, and as a society Japanese are fairly polite. Has this changed a bit since

the modernization of Japan. Sure, but there still is a difference in household roles for men and

women in this culture. Most people I hear that have bad Asian girlfriend stories are rarely

Japanese. Mostly they’re Filipino, Thai, Vietnamese, Cambodian, Korean, and Chinese.

The one that gets the rep of being the most physically abusive and violent are Korean women oddly

enough.

So why date Asian women in the first place ? Well for the same reason why you date anyone,attraction,

and the hope they might be nice. If “THE EVENT” never happens. You aren’t getting yelled at on

regular basis because of dumb things, she isn’t making weird financial request of you, you’re chances

of having a good Asian woman increases ! The reason for this article is for you to maximize

you’re time. If you see poor behavior you’ve been forewarnd ! GET OUT ! RUN DON’T WALK. DoN’T TRY TO

FIGURE IT OR HER OUT ! If that behavior never appears then you have a “potentionally” good girl

which is why I still will give Asian women a shot. I’m just a lot more careful since I know a lot

now after several expiriences !

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